Long Distance Relationships - Your Opinion

Most people admit that long distance relationships are hard work and require commitment on another level. We asked a couple of people for their thoughts and this is what they had to say!

Yoshan: it’s all about understanding and sacrifices you have to work hard on making time for the other half and understand when they  are busy its hard  but it’s worth the wait.

Rebecca: One word: Commitment.

Mahika: Trust, patience and commitment.

Roma: I know a couple who made it 10 years long distance seeing each other once a year and got married on their 11th year and still love each other no matter what. It takes commitment, being faithful and always remembering there is some one in another country/place loving and trusting you and hoping you do the same.

Apsara: The only things that a relationship requires are trust and commitment. If they exist the relationship will flourish no matter whether they are together or in a long distance.

Tharusha: Trust, commitment & being faithful.

Kanishka: Medication.

Jithendra: It is about understanding, knowing each other sometimes and sacrificing for another's happiness and trust. It is like the pillars of success. Long distance relationships come through lots of learning like on the job training. You need to believe in one another with everything you know of each. For many millennials it may be a challenge but for silent generation of the world it comes with marriage and traditions where as baby boomers first started to explore what really matters in long relationships X and Y generation of the world are trying the waters. What matters in a long distance relationship is everything what you know about each other and what you don't know about each other plus how you keep each other happy meeting their expectations.

Kevin: In this world, what is love without lust, and how can we practice that if your partner isn't within arms reach? If you don't believe lust is important, then you should be able to love unconditionally, and we all know only God can do that. We humans are too weak to avoid temptation, we always break, and distance would make matters worse. Enough said.

Nirosha: They can create a false sense of a person, their personality, habits, traits, likes and dislikes. Long distance relationships can also lead to pedestal syndrome - where you tend to put your partner on surprise surprise... a pedestal - because interactions are generally planned! The time you spend together can be a bubble - because you're so happy to see that person in person you don't really address what the relationship needs are or what your individual needs are. I guess what I'm trying to say is - it's easy to lose your sense of sight in a long distance relationship. If I sound cynical - I am. But that's not to say they are all like this - hopefully!

Randime: Depth over distance! If you want it, and if you love that one person who's thousands of miles away from you, you would do anything to keep the light burning! No matter what!

Kelly: Long distant relationships in my view is possible. It's all about trust and love. If two individuals have their mind set on being together, they will be no matter the circumstances. You are tested on your will and love for each other when you are apart. For us seeing each other in different parts of the world was exciting and instilled in me ... It would be a matter of time that we would be together. It may sound like a business plan, but I always focus on long term goals. When you love, love hard. When you work, work hard. That's our motto. Hold on tight, say a prayer... Listen to your inner voice and follow it. What is meant to be, will always find a way.

Piyusha: As long as the two are able and willing to keep it in their pants!

Nadeeka: Six months ago I'd have said I don't believe in them...after 3 months experience, I can say that it is more than possible. It's all about patience and understanding (especially when you are just about falling asleep as he's waking up!) and living by all those elements that brought you together in the first place. In my case, I think we mke a bigger effort to speak to each other now than we did when we were together; so in a way it is healthy to have some space for a little while, giving both parties room to grow as individuals, while appreciating the other. Don't get me wrong, whatever positives it may have, however many things you might do to keep busy etc, I'll never endorse long distance; it's a real B!#$%.

Eshantha: I'd like to point out how the nature and feasibility of long-distance relationships has changed with every new human-developed technology. e.g. the invention of spoken language, the invention of written script, the invention of mass-produced paper, institutionalized postal services, the telephone, email, instant messenger, skype. I predict that the next big game-changer will be when Oculus Rift goes mass-market.

Sahani: I think long distance relationships are beautiful. The survival itself is beautiful and it takes a lot of patience and understanding for two people to make it work. I'm not saying it doesn't hurt. Yes, it does. Not being able to do cute little things all the time. But it is all worth it. Miles and miles between, expensive planes tickets, long waits between visits, poor internet connection, nights spent alone, these things shouldn't matter much. Having the one thing you want the most, it should. Shouldn't it?

By Reihan Stephen