If your bedroom is lacking a little heat lately, no-thanks to rainy weather or a lack of comfy duvets, you might just have hit a slump. With over 60% of adults admitting that their sex life could use some spicing up, it’s quite intriguing to venture into the root of everything that misses the pillow talk.
It’s relatively obvious that a lack of communication breeds the most amount of dissatisfaction in bed, but being too shy to say “harder” is not the only reason a majority of us (yes us) are facing this problem.
To start things off, men and women are wired entirely different, and if we had a toffee for every time this was mentioned, the world will be a happier place by now (or a highly diabetic one). Yes women and men are very differently wired and as the saying goes, women aren’t very hot on the “wham-bam-thank you ma’am” approach to sex. They prefer being tied up and tortured it seems (why else would 50 Shades make it to any decent bookstand?), so the real revelation is, selfish lovers aren’t the only ones in trouble. The nice gentlemanly lovers are also quite royally skewered. The nice girls don’t like vanilla sex anymore.
Having said that, going ape shizz crazy in bed won’t get you too far either, so it’s a fine line between bringing to life a girl’s dark fantasies and making an utter fool of yourself. The trick here is knowing what appeals to the woman you have in bed with you and I’m ready to guarantee it’ll be one of these few (and a little alone time with Gerrard Butler, if you’re cool with that).
The devil’s three-way
I know it sounds like something a man would prefer and I know it sounds too good to be true, but think about it, how many girls do you know that have kissed their best friends? If it never occurred to you to ask your girl about her adventures, please make that call now. Women by nature are extremely bi-curious and talking them into a three-way is really not so hard if you’re anything of a smooth talker.
The glitch however is that you need to be very careful about the boundaries of the romp. A good rule of thumb is letting her choose the partner and an even better rule of thumb is keeping your hands and eyes off of the extra addition as much as possible. It’s a struggle for attention between the girls and if you so much as sway the wrong way, it’s game over for you.
Performances
The female species are a little superfluous as most of us know from the largely popular make-up companies and salons, making easy pickings off of our credit cards. Well nothing is a bigger boost to that ego than an enthralled boyfriend staring at her raunchy performance.
Most girls will be appalled by the idea at first but like anyone whose done theatre would know, performance fright is always overcome by the love of her role and it won’t be long before she is ready to go on Broadway. You just might end up having discovered the next Carman Elektra, you lucky dog you!
Toys
After more than one girlfriend ended our relationship following a mysterious purchase from Peaches and Cream, I’m starting to see a pattern, jokes aside, toys are a big turn on for any girl but like any of her fantasies you’re going to have to talk her into it.
So jostle along you knight in shining spandex and introduce her to some of the best times she’ll have in her lifetime.
S&M
Oh you so saw this coming! It’s the trendy new taboo and everyone’s doing it (think 50 Shades), talking her into it might be a little tactless, instead spring it up on her in bed with a silk blindfold or a pair of handcuffs and take it from there.
What is most important is establishing whether she’s a dom or a sub (Google it) and once you’ve got that nailed down, you’ll know where to go.
By R.Lewis
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Ss says:
Jul 05, 2013 at 12:00 am3 way with your best friend? you don't even know the basic rule of a 3 way! it should always be a stranger unless you want things to be awkward later on