In this “real” world, we see only a bit of “real”ity... 

Deep within your mind there is a door. A door that separates your fantasy from reality. Your fantasy is a blissful world and it consumes you, or more accurately you let it consume you because it just is so perfect in every way. Reality demands to be noticed. It is rude and doesn’t care if it hurts your feelings. Reality is usually not all beautiful. It’s stark and it hits you right in the face when you least expect it.

What screws up the most in life is the picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be. When it comes to relationships, most teens (and maybe even a few adults, though they would never admit) actually want to have the same kind of love that is present in movies and books. I would often find my friends obsessed over some book/movie, due to the fact that the hero of the book is so loving and kind and romantic and the list goes on. They never really watch the end of the movie, except for all the cheesy parts where the guy usually proposes his love in an extraordinary way.

Many teens usually believe that the movie love exists. Girls believe that their Prince Charming would sweep them off their feet and boys believe that girls would be as pretty as they seem to be in their Instagram or any other picture on social media. Girls believe that the guy who she secretly likes will ask her out, shower her with red roses, whisper that he loves her in her ear every day for the rest of their lives and sparks will fly.

In Aashiqui 2 we see a man who stops drinking due to his girlfriend telling him not to. Do you ever think that something like that would happen to you? Well, I don’t think so. Even though you dream of making your boyfriend, into someone that will eternally please you, sometimes reality can kill your dreams. No matter what you do to tell your boyfriend to change his ways, sometimes you have to face reality, because “change” might not be a prominent word in his vocabulary. In many Nicholas Sparks movies, there is always a kiss in the rain, but in reality you do know that you might catch a cold if you go out in the rain right? In movies, guys go out of their way to apologize and try to get them back, sometimes saying that beautiful apology speech that makes girls swoon, but in reality after a fight occurs guys tend to send a text saying “Sry”. In A Walk to Remember, Jamie is a plain girl who soon Landon seems to have fallen in love with. Girls in reality never get that kind of attention, even though they would love to. Girls and guys alike want to fall in love, but seem to be scared that their other will walk away someday and leave them in the dust. Love stories usually end with a happily ever after but in reality it doesn’t seem to happen often, which leaves one depressed and eventually shutting out the world, thinking that they will never love again.

How many of you have heard this?”I am absolutely, definitely, positively, unquestionably, unconditionally, irrevocably, beyond in doubt in love with you” It’s never real. And even if what was said was real, it would take a lifetime to prove it. Love is like a rubber band held up by two people. If one leaves it hurts the other. But when facing reality, teens should know that there is always life after a breakup. No matter what how bad, it’s still a life. Just because they broke up with you doesn’t mean that life is over right?

Most teens think that breaking up is the worst thing that could happen and take their lives. This should stop. Sure there needs to be fantasy in your life to spice things up, but a few reality checks on the way will lead to a stable and secure life.

Opinions 

Rochelle

You keep fantasizing about what you want, but in reality it seems hard to have all of what you expect from life and people around you and that tends to bring you down and hurt you.

Senuri

Fictional is temporary. You get caught up in it because it seems so perfect and when you get that in life it’s not going to be forever and you end up getting hurt probably more than you should. You should understand the fact that there’s a big difference between fantasy and reality not get yourself tangled up in fantasy too much. A little bit of fantasy is always good but you tend to find it hard to move on because you may still be in your little fantasy bubble.

Hafeeza

Everyone has their own standards n expectations, but perfection leads all of us for failure. Expecting perfection will only leave us disappointed. A happy n a perfect relationship is one that encourages both parties to be their best n truest selves, flaws n etc. So be yourself and encourage them to do the same. The other thing is that people think that they will be able to change their other but the personal change within them takes time. It takes a large amount of self awareness, acceptance and willingness to take steps towards that change.

By Mariam Sadique